As much as western thinking would like to believe that in this twenty first century the playing field between the sexes is leveling, the fact is men and women do have fundamental differences that are meant to compliment each other in an interdependent way, and there is no clearer demonstration of this than in the rules of courtship.

When it comes to true love between a man and a woman, the process of discovering, and realising that love happens somewhat differently for both. Deep down, every woman wants to be romanced, she wants to be properly wooed, sought after, admired, desired, cherished, her heart won over by the man she desires.

For men it is the opposite. Men being highly competitive with each other, it is important for them to win and this is no more important for a man than when it comes to the woman he really wants…

 
 
     Broken relationships, estranged partners, unrequited affections – issues surrounding the whole idea of love would make up a list that can very well go around the circumference of this Earth – and catalyze thousands more poems and love songs in the disillusioned, deluded, and injured. Why do so many bad things come out of something that’s supposed to be so good anyway?

 
  
       The myriad of ways that God explicitly instructs us to love Him and one another has always pointed to the myriad of ways that we humans have been doing it wrong.
 
      In the infamous love chapter in 1 Corinthians, Paul claims that no matter the level of “spiritual maturity” we step into – have mountain moving faith, prophesy, and even speak the language of angels – all will ultimately amount to nothing if we…

“Waiting for the right time” is a really vague principle and maybe a cruel word for some young people. In a world where we have access to a lot of things, denying yourself  to have a love of your life has really become a virtue. Young people jump to romantic relationships for many reasons and many of them end up not in good shape. In my experience of counseling  young people about it, I often communicate these principles that I’m hoping they would be guided by. My wife also had a blog about this last year, but more directed towards women.

So here are my reasons why I advice young people to wait:

1. Waiting means preparing. You prepare for something or someone who is important. If that thing is not that important, you can just “wing it” because there is nothing really at stake. But if a person values…